by tonyvld » Mon Aug 02, 2021 5:26 am
Honestly Joan, the only way to work on a reputation, is to just start with yourself. Make changes, adjustments and try your best to make the better choice. For example, if someone is upsetting you, and normally you'd tell them in not so colorful words where to go. Just don't do it and walk away calmly. And if it's really bothering you, well just talk to your friends about it, no matter who you are sometimes you do need to vent a little just don't let it blind you to the better option of just stepping away, because bad situations only get worse if you let your temper get the better of you. Because it's also possible, you may have inadvertently upset this person and might not even be aware that you have. Your reputation begins with how you carry yourself in day to day life and how you react to certain situations. And if you continue carrying yourself in a certain way, then the reputation will soon follow, with or without you even noticing. Reputation is literally all up to you, what you do and how you do it. So, working on mine, I've been doing it for awhile, just following a certain, and pretty common mindset. Just take each situation, carefully. Look at my options in each one, try to determine the best course of action, if I can't, then I will reach out for help or guidance, there's nothing wrong with that. But also, some cases just call for basic common sense, such as in the situation where you meet someone for the first time, it doesn't mean you two are best of friends just because one RP went rather well or was fun. Just means you had fun. Now if that keeps happening, and you two are constantly around one another and having fun for quite some time, then it can be somewhat safe to assume a small friendship at this point. So, I've been doing what I can with my reputation, just by working on myself as a person. And, I'll admit, I wouldn't exactly know how to prove it to you or the staff team, without given the chance to show it. But, that's alright, I've changed for the better, and to me that is what matters the most. And I do apologize if I have misunderstood the question, and I'll admit, it did confuse me a bit at first, and how I understood it was 'You do have a bad reputation, but, how can you work on it without being given a chance to show the results?' and so, I just decided to tell how I changed in how I approached things, and where I started, which was with myself as a person.