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Denied from me. What I've seen here is a start to understanding what you did wrong. But we had to literally spoon feed these to you in modmail. Also, your ban reason given is not your actual ban reason message. That would be this below.
Ok Tony, what we're trying to get you to explain is your logic and reasoning for why you did this, and then to explain for why you shouldn't do this. Reaching out to people who have left the discord because you saw them in game is, blantantly, creepy. People do not like that. They leave for their own reasons. You shouldn't reach out to people because you searched their character name on discord and you want to arrange something in game. Doing this makes people feel uncomfortable, doing this makes people feel unsafe. It makes people feel like they shouldn't be here. And we have had to literally spoon feed you what it takes to be a basic level good person. So here's what is gonna happen. You'll be banned, and you can appeal on the forum. And you will be unbanned when you can properly demonstrate that you realize what you did was wrong because the logic and reasoning behind it was wrong. And when you can satisfactorily explain that, we will unban you. Please do not reach out to members of staff to get this repealed, you are only to appeal on the forums.
Now here's why you're not being unbanned after this appeal:
1. You completely lapsed in play activity for a long period of time starting right after you were unbanned. And then you start playing again for 2 weeks and the behavior that got you banned resumes again. And so you get banned. The acceptable ratio of incidents to logins is 0, but I would be far more willing to make this a serious warning if that was 2 years of completely unproblematic (if not outright positive) behavior across active playtime. So far what you've convinced me of is that if you were allowed to return, this would just happen again. And if we hadn't told you to stop, you wouldn't have stopped doing this to other people.
2. You did not stop messaging an admin on the team you thought you were friendly with until you were blocked. You significantly overplayed any relation you two had to each other, which is a common manipulation tactic. This is never excusable and I would deny this application on the merit of that alone. If you attempt to contact any member of the staff team anywhere but on this forum to discuss your ban, that will factor negatively into future appeals. This is your only warning for this.
3. You have repeatedly attempted to downplay the significance of what you did, you have repeatedly omitted truth or directly lied to staff, and you have obstructed us repeatedly. And every time we threw you a line to redeem yourself, you practically ignored it to keep trying to argue that you weren't doing anything bad. I don't think 10 days is enough to really internalize and drastically shift your behavior.
4. To elaborate on the point above more, you have repeatedly used the term "meet and greet" and clarified it as not being RP. Ok, so what is it? Was it supposed to be an out of character "hey you are cool, wanna be friends" sort of thing? Was it an attempt to downplay Non-ERP RP as being not RP? I cannot think of a charitable interpretation of what you keep saying and I figure you should know this is the case so you stop saying it in this context.
5. Finally, when I consider why I should unban you, I consider the relative utility you provide versus what other people who would be affected by your presence provide. Currently that is heavily unfavorable to you as you do not provide anything specifically to the community that justifies your return. You have, however, provided ample cases against why you should not be allowed to return any time soon. And you have likely, knowingly or unknowingly, driven people away from our community by your actions.
In the interest of fairness, I will accept an appeal in 2 years from today if you can convince me in that appeal that you've grown as a person and this will never be an issue again. And I will consider an appeal of this type earlier
if and only if it is paired with an endorsement from another ERP/Kink server's staff team for several months of active playtime with no incidents or even outright positive behavior. I will not accept an appeal that does not meet both of these conditions.
If you have any questions or requests for clarification as to the nature of your ban or its appeal, you may make them below.