by Vorrarkul » Sat Feb 13, 2016 10:40 pm
Letterboynumberman, 'non-con' refers to Non-Consensual, as in consent is not given by one of the partners. So yes, it would include rape, but the key is not what's being done, rather in level of willingness involved.
I rarely have trouble finding noncon scenes, though I think I might just know where to look. One of the big things is to communicate OOCly; LOOC if you're not in somewhere with a lot of people (which can confuse people as to whom you're addressing), and use PDAs if they're somewhere public and you don't want to LOOC. If you're expecting spontaneous scenes where you're chased by the pred without this OOC communication beforehand, you have to accept that sometimes they won't bother/notice.
Bailing is totally understandable if the scene is getting too uncomfortable, but I would recommend trying to salvage the scene first so as not to just leave your partner hanging. Tell them to, for example, tone down the describing every cut and drop of blood in a hard vore scene.
(The following is not aimed specifically at the OP) And for the love of god, stop crying for help if you're OOCly consenting, people! It just drives the noncon preds further into hiding because they can't get good scenes without security knocking down the walls.